Application frustration: why you should trust yourself more again

Nov 7, 2020 Application

Are you one of those applicants who are constantly thinking about what else they can do to optimize their application and finally score points with it? And the longer your search drags on and the more rejections you get, the more urgently do you look for the one crucial tip that will finally end this maximally frustrating phase in your life? Then messages like this come like:

Study shows: Your application has the greatest chance of success on this day and if you send your application at a certain time, this could increase your chances by five times and a psychologist reveals: With this question in the interview, applicants increase their chances of being successful almost 100 percent.

Now you know: you just have to send your email with your application on Mondays between 6 a.m. and 10 a.m., because it just hit the top of the recruiter’s mailbox early in the morning. After all, it has been proven that on Mondays, freshly after the weekend, recruiters are in the best mood and the most good-natured, so that they can send you the invitation back for an interview right away. Then there is the all-important question for you, “Why did you invite me?” – and whoosh, you’re the lucky one who is completely secure in the job. – Who’s believe it!

I do not find it at all reprehensible when advertising-financed online portals earn money with such high-click and one-dimensional application “tricks”. Ultimately, demand also determines supply online.

What concerns me, however, is precisely this demand and with it, the growing need in our society for such quick and supposedly surefire “you only have to do this one thing to be successful” recipes.

In a society that is increasingly committed to self-determination, individuality, and freedom of expression, but at the same time makes itself so dependent on other people’s opinion and blindly follows what studies have proven and experts advise.

“This is how you do it!” too often becomes a convenient, quick truth in our daily thinking and actions. Your own view of the world, your own attitude, and the resulting personal opinion and behavior from inner conviction fade more and more into the background.

Instead, the dependence on the outside becomes greater. This is practical because if all these tips and advice do not work against expectations, it is easy to point your finger at others or to declare yourself to be a particularly difficult case to gain new strength for collective whining from the compassionate sympathy of your loved ones to draw on God and the world.

News: 80% managers create frustration for their team- Study — People Matters

And so it seems that more and more people are aligning their actions more and more frequently with this thought pattern that has mutated into a comfortable habit: It is not right what you think what you can do, it is more important what others say, what is right, what you have to do.

But what is left of your self-confidence when you have forgotten how to become aware of yourself? How great is your self-confidence when you no longer trust your own knowledge and your many valuable experiences, but rather in what other people say that is right for you?

I’m sorry to disappoint you, but you won’t find happiness in life just because you can answer this one crucial question Steve Jobs asked himself every morning. You won’t become successful at work just because you know the three most secret tricks that made Elon Musk great. And as an applicant, you will not get the job just because you send your email on Monday mornings at 8.55 a.m.

Yes, as a career coach and expert I also give tips. Here in the blog, in my columns, and of course personally in coaching. But it is important to me that you remain the boss of your life.

I can show you my perspective on your issues, tell you my personal opinion, give you feedback on your thoughts and your behavior and let you participate in my experiences. But I will never say to you: Trust me, this is how you have to do it because I know better, and I am right.

Rather, I encourage applicants to do their thing harder. It is not important whether “you” do something because it is written that way in the application guides or because studies prove it. You can include all of this in your considerations, and it may also be important because it makes you feel safe. But it is just as important that you trust that you know it yourself and that you ultimately do what you think is right. Because this is the only way to be the boss of your life as an applicant and person and have the opportunity to really differentiate yourself from other applicants

You will hardly be surprised: Applicants with healthy self-confidence have the better cards. A self-confidence that radiates that you have your own opinion, an attitude, a personality. That you do not adapt and bend yourself just to please but are proud of your rough edges, which also set you apart as an individual. That you not only have to meet expectations but also have your own goals and are allowed to pursue them. That you remain true to yourself and trust that you know what is important and right for you.

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